Sunrise walk. Caught the remnants of a full moon. Lots of energy. Lots still to see.
Room for Hurt
Part 1
Feeling like I’m losing my passion, the energy is leveling. The spirit hibernating, unmoved by the lack of new. Wondering what the future holds when I’m trudging along, lazy to look, but pleasantly subdued by the hue of progress…the shade of absence. The endless wheel that turns in different locations/situations. It takes practice to be present. Facing forward, looking back…tiring to be. Living in extremes. The wheel turns. The haze of depression, the rust of hurt, the itch of restlessness.
Everything should be great, everything should be, but I can’t fight the feelings. In my head, I imagine a white room, beautifully pristine, open, bright, yet with every breath the room gets smaller and smaller. A closet. My breathing is labored, choked tears. Fighting back. I can’t help the way I feel, I grab a glass and throw it. The sound is relieving. I grab anything and everything. Throwing, smashing, overturning. WHY?! Screaming wordlessly, body tense and shaking. He promised! PROMISED!!! Doesn’t that mean anything to anyone anymore–to HIM!!?
….It did for me.
I find bottles I’ve stashed in corners. I push aside the glass and lay down, drinking till the room spins, the wheels turning, and I feel like a space cadet strapped to lead weights. I love swimming. I swim alone. Once again.
I try so very hard to fight/enjoy the urge to drink it/all down, the bite reminds me to breathe and let go, but I try hold my lunch.
But promises are broken, I tell my turning stomach.

Part 2
The days slipping. I swim until I’m no longer moving. The room settling. The wheel returned. I grope around…drink? Him? A friend? All remnants. I pick myself up, looking at the mess I’ve made/become. All too familiar. I dust myself off and walk out of the room and into the hall where bright lights sting my raw eyes. How will I ever get used to this? I have. I will. I gingerly close the door. As I come back to myself, the aching breath that I’ve held in escapes.
The wheel resumes.
Make room for Hurt. Hurt comes uninvited, but it does need your permission to run rampant.
Day 115
Drove through part of Swan Valley, the vineyard row of West Australia. My WWOOF host and I were looking for an Italian vineyard that sells really good port by the gallon. Eventually, we found the place–Vino Italia, founded in 1954 by the man in the picture when he was 21. Unfortunately, I forgot his name, but he’s very talkative with funny stories and great wine making skills.
Day 107
Remembrance Day at King’s Park. Poppies were crotchet across the country for the 100th anniversary. At the King’s Park memorial there were 61,513 poppies, one for every fallen soldier, past and present.
Later on, I was shown around the city of Perth were I got to see part of the Botanical Gardens, the Bell tower, Elizabeth Key, Elizabeth Quay Bridge, Matagarup Bridge, and the new stadium.
Day 106
Been down, feeling in a funk. I guess it’s because the loneliness has finally hit me. Here in Australia, I’m not distracted by new sights and the freedom to move around and so I find myself alone with my thoughts more than ever. Not saying I don’t like where I am, it’s just that the hurt from being left to do this trip alone has finally sunk in. My best friend made me a promise to come with and failed to keep it. No explanation. Nothing. I hoped this would be a restart; a new beginning. An opportunity to get over all the hurtful history between us and a chance to leave harmful habits behind, but I guess I was the only one with that idea in mind. Can’t hate him too much for not coming. This was always my journey to make.
I distract myself with small tasks and gardening. After several months, I now have access to a kitchen. Cooking certainly helps. Today, I was lazy. Tried hiding from the outside world. I finally slapped myself into taking a walk. I took pictures of the yard and some parts around the neighborhood. The fresh air certainly made a difference. Somehow, my troubles seemed silly compared to the beauty around me. From that day, my mood has changed significantly thanks to a camera and a walk.
Pine Scented Box
To lay down, to swim without moving.
To open up without breathing, to feel the inside out and nothing at all–
What do you know of spinning circles?
Of walking the tightrope between existing and not?
Between you and I? What is the fine line?
Another caked nostril? The last word you or I said? This drink in my hand?
What do you know…that I don’t?
Why is it that I can’t realize it in the moment–moments, because you and I both know
there’s plenty of mistakes made and waiting. Tell me!
What will I miss?
Here-now, tomorrow, there!
What will it look like?
The last of everything.
Day 102
How to travel with only a $1000
I really am not made of money, I just got tired of waiting. I left CA, because I got tired of doing the same thing and expecting things to work out. I was drinking a lot, depressed and frustrated. I finally got my shit together and finished college, the best thing I could do. I passed with flying fucking colors, so proud of myself. Didn’t waste time and money on a graduation ceremony, I just wanted out. Finishing school finally released the hold Santa Cruz had on me. I loved my job at the Empire Grill and my good friends I’ve made along the way, but personal mental health was my priority. I got rid of everything in 10 days, pushed to make decision because of a failing living situation. I left for Maui, HI with just a backpack.
I bummed on friend’s hammocks and couches, working all the while and seeing what I could see. I really wanted to settle down in Maui, make something of myself, you know. With school on the brain, I wanted to get into teaching and get serious, but the universe pushed me in a different direction. I had just gotten rid of everything, I had no lease agreement, no serious job, no kids, no stuff, and a lot of people I knew where having kids, getting cancer, and dying and I felt pushed to think about leaving and traveling some more. I kept talking about Thailand and Bali and finally, I found the cheapest ticket to Bali and I couldn’t pass it up. I was supposed to go with my best friend, but that quickly turned out to be a disappointing failure. However, I had made up my mind and there wasn’t a question left for me. I was going to Bali…alone.
Fucking scary, I’ll tell you that! I’ve never traveled alone overseas, I was nearly puking with excitement and anxiety, but I had to go. I knew nothing about Indonesia, but that was part of the excitement. All the unknown became a high, a giddy tension that I could feel in my veins pumping away, my palms sweaty and ready. My feet never felt so light and steady. What about money? Will you get a job? Where are you going to stay? Do you know anyone over there? What if something happens??!?! All these questions by me and others whirled in my head on the flight there, but as soon as I landed, I didn’t care anymore. I mean I did, but not in a way to worry, so unlike me. The Australian’s have a word: cocksure. It means to be confident, without a doubt, of one’s self. That’s the feeling I have. I’m cocksure that I can be resourceful and survive anywhere. With my focus and humility in check, I have no doubt I can do anything.
With only $1000 I had to budget. I made a point to stop drinking for this trip and that helped. After lessons learned, the universe wanted me aware and appreciative of everything it had to offer. In a new place with so many things to see and soak in, leaving the bar behind was easy. I stayed in a really nice place for the first week in Bali, but it only cost me about $15/night. After that, I stayed in $3-5 hostels. They weren’t bad, clean beds and hot showers. One hostel gave me free breakfast every day and the other had a really nice pool and cheap instant noodles (real money saver). I paid for the $300 ticket to Bali and what I could of my hostel/hotel stays on my credit card. Still it’s been less than $400.
I didn’t need to pay for a visa for Bali with a US passport, but I did need a ticket out to be able to go. I got a $90 ticket to Perth, Australia. The cheapest ticket I have ever found for Australia!! ETA visa is online and only $20. So here I am. I signed up to WWOOF and that saved my ass big time. It’s a work exchange program basically, I help out around the farm in exchange for food and board. I haven’t spent a dime since I’ve been here. The work was a blessing, because it didn’t hit me until now that I was alone. I had made plans to marry my best friend if he came with me on this trip. If you know me, marriage and kids were never a thing for me to consider…but I thought maybe, maybe someone who could ride with me on this journey could certainly ride with me for life. As much as I’m hurt by that disappointment, I felt it was a positive thing too. I get to see the world through my eyes alone, to think about it and to be solely and beautifully consumed by it.
I applied for a holiday work visa to New Zealand (for the US, it’s free!). There I plan to do a work exchange until I can find a job, and save money . I get a year to do all that and in the meantime I get to enjoy NZ and all its spectacular sights. That’s the plan anyway, haha.
Day 99
The playlist of my journey so far…
Boz Scaggs- Can I Make it Last?
The Traveling Wilburys- End of the Line
Kate Bush- Running up that Hill
The Whitest Boy Alive- Burning
Broken Bells- Holding on for Life
the Revivalists- Wish I knew you
The Donkeys- Lower the Heavens
Thin Lizzy- Still In Love with You
Natalia Lafourcade- Hasta La Raiz